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Once upon a time there lived a beautiful maiden named Rapunzel, who was locked in a tower by an evil witch. Everyday, the witch visited Rapunzel to taunt her with stories of princes and princesses, dragons and wizards and other life outside the castle walls. Since the castle had no doors, she would climb Rapunzel's beautiful long hair, which she let down through a small window in the tower. One day, a handsome young prince
was passing by when he heard Rapunzel’s sweet song. While relishing
in her melodious voice, he noticed that the witch entered the castle via
Rapunzel’s locks. After the witch disappeared, he called to the
maiden, “Rapunzel! Rapunzel! Let down your golden hair!” Rapunzel let down her hair, and the two fell in love at once. Except for one thing: the witch found out. So she tricked Rapunzel into letting down her golden hair, and then chopped it all off, and sent her away to the desert. Then, she sat by the tower, and waited for the Prince. When he arrived, he fell into a thornbush and was blinded. He spent the next few years wandering the world in search of his dear Rapunzel. When alas, she was found, she dropped tears in his eyes and his blindness was cured. They got married and lived happily ever after. |
Most young girls who grow up in America hear the story of Rapunzel dozens of times. It seems innocent enough. But closer analysis reveals a very interesting bit of moral proselytizing: The maiden indulges in sins of the flesh, and for this she is punished. So the lesson to be learnt, little girls, is stay pure if you want to keep your pretty curls.
If you think this concept is obsolete, you’re partially right. Gone are the times of hair-chopping and eye-gauging to punish teenage lust (we hope),though elsewhere, female genital mutilation is still practiced to discourage premarital sex through the loss of pleasure. According to the western notion of womanhood, however, the pre-pubescent female continues to occupy a precarious social space, and in some ways it is even more complex than in the days of princes and princesses.
Aside from damaging embaressment, what does this signify?
Whereas before, menstruation indicated the advent of a husband and babies,
today it has taken on a variety of meanings, that are often contradictory.
On one hand, menarche is a rite of passage amongst peers:
While an indicator of social status that can infer positive (or at least
popular) effects, menstruation can also be a very scary experience. Some
girls simply are not prepared for it. And then there are the secondary sexual characteristics that accompany menarche: Breasts, hips, weight gain, pubic hair. It can be terrific for some girls, disconcerting for other girls, and confusing for still others. The latter reaction is even more likely in light of conflicting body expectations that young girls face ad naseum.While this generation is more comfortable talking about body issues than previous generations, it would be hasty to disregard the age-old emphasis on bodily purity. This is especially true in cultures that place a high value on religion, and/ or family honor, both edicts that stress group wellness over individuality.
But sometimes it is! A ten year old girl with a fully developed body
will be treated as a fifteen year old. Is she a woman? Is she capable
of physical and emotional relationships with older boys or men? Most of
us would declare a resounding no! But this is a valid concern for many
young girls. There is a great example of this in literature: Click
here to read a summary of "Lolita," by Vladimir Nabakov,
a story of adult male lust for pre-pubescent girls The matter is further complicated by a media-saturated society that has
stumbled upon the realization that... sex sells! So a thirteen year old
girl who is not greatly developed flips through YM and sees what she should
look like, and switches on MTV and there are forty large breasted, big-hipped
women swarming around one male singer, and on the radio she hears Britney
Spears cooing, “I’m a slave....” and then suddenly she
needs to buy make-up and a push-up bra, and go on a diet, and she might
as well start working on her kegal exercises.
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